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I think your analogies are spot on- and really relevant to what is going on out there in the workplace. It is great to hear what your thinking so I can better target MY career strategies.
These were great tips to know when you should make a change, however you forgot..DON’T WANT TO GET OUT OF BED or chronically late for work. LOL
Oh, how I DON’T miss corporate America! I get up when I wake up now. LOL I’m still a morning person, but I am much happier now to walk over to my home office instead of dealing with morning commute to a job that doesn’t fulfill my soul and purpose. Great article Silvana!!
Silvana, te felicito!!!
Excelente!!!
Thought inspiring.
Hey silvana,
love each one of your posts.
As a musician (bass player, producer) and also crazy/avid/competitive runner, I am finding myself in all kinds of very challenging situations where my brain, emotions, abilities, etc etc are tested.
Very inspiring and love the fact that there are more people that think this way.
thanks
This speaks volumes!!! great site! congratulations
Silvana – SO GEN Y!!! What are your tips for we Gen X’s and the baby boomers?
Very insightful….made me think about the times I didn’t take timing into consideration (or blood sugar levels for that matter!) and have walked away empty-handed and feeling cheated out of what was rightfully mine to have…go figure! If only I knew then…what I know now…that I need to keep a bag of chocolate in my purse!
Great way of putting your experiences into words…if they weren’t online, I’d say that your articles are real “page turners” but…you know what I mean.
An enjoyable reminder of what’s important to stay sane….I forwarded it to my boss and he said he was going to print it and post it in his office. Considering that he’s the President of the company and very successful businessman…I’d take it as a compliment!
Self-freaking-perception and empathy! What a wonderful life it would be if we all took the time to analyze ourselves as you have…and put ourselves in everyone else’s shoes when expecting things from others…
As for the worse case scenario I say….”if the problem has a solution, why worry? And…if the problem doesn’t have a solution, why worry?”…
Mira http://www.thegrowinglife.com se parece a tu blog en muchas cosas, sobre todo mira lo primero que salio.
I knew it was time to leave a job when I was walking to work and about to cross a road, I thought that if I got hit by a car and went to hospital then I wouldn’t have to go to work.
I loved the story of tennis ball. In the end the 8 year old showed to be more persistent. Well done! And I believe kindness will always win over a sourpuss, also proven in the story. Your tips are right on and I too can vouch for anything being possible. God, the universe, whatever you call it, is waiting to give us what we most want. Most people just don’t ask. Actually most people, I would dare to say, don’t know what they want. Start there, by asking yourself what you really want. Dream, be wild, let the kid in you come forth. Then go out and ask the world for it. It’s yours!
This idea of reading useful things 90% of the time is a thoroughly good one. However, I wonder if you consider good fiction a useful kind of book? I rarely read fiction nowadays but betweent he age of 12 and 17, all I wanted to be was a writer and possibly a fition writer and that’s all I read. When that dream evaporated, I gave up on reading fiction altogether for many years.
When I was 19, I came to a conclusion that my religious reading of daily newspapers since I was 12 had come to a complete waste. I could not recall or remember anything I have read or pin-point anything I have learnt from newspapers. I never read a page of newspaper until say 5 years ago and I now read newspaper online because I think it only deserves my attention for a few minutes at a time only for global events and yes, laugh out loud, the weather.
Recently, I’ve come to a conclusion that there are as many rubbish non-fiction books out there as fictions. Books are written by people of various abilities, intellectual capabilities, intelligence and let’s face it, talent. Just because it’s been published is by no means a guarantee of its quality. Editors, mind you are as varied in their taste and capacity as writers themselves and so are publishing companies.
Hence I have arrived at my dillemma. How can I ever trust myself to pick up another book, non-fiction especially? At least with fiction, I have come to a conclusion never to read one that has not withstood the test of time (not considered as ‘classics’) or has won a major price somewhere, sometime ago. At least I know some basic level of standards have been applied there. With non-fictions, I have read as many ‘top selling’ ‘No 1 for 15 straightweeks ‘ that I consider lacking in originality in any sense of the word and frankly, jejune. I can’t begin to count the amount of time I bin the book immediately after getting to the last page. I rather have the satifaction of burning it except i don’t have a working fire place.
What’s your recommendation with choosing a good non-fiction book? How do I know that I will not be wasting my time reading a book that I thought I was going to learn something from but ended up wasting more of my valuable time on, not to mention my absolute fury when I came to realise that I was completely and utterly duped by the book and the writer?
Speaking of switching jobs, how about some tips for getting jobs? Say, in an industry that you have no experience in whatsoever. I am finishing uni end of this year but I have very little (by that I mean VERY little) industry experience. What are the things I must do for myself to improve my competitiveness in the job marke? Obviously an impeccable academic transcript is a bit too late!
Hi Yen,
Congratulations…you’re done with your degree…that’s great!
And now REALITY..(which does not have to bite!)
In my mind what will give you an edge in the job market is not so much what you have done and haven’t. I’ve gotten jobs where I didn’t know much about what product I’d be selling – let alone about the industry. And I most certainly did not have the experience (but that’s a whole ‘nother post).
What landed me those jobs was my approach to the situation. So what I suggest you do is, if you haven’t already, to start seeing your career as a business and running it as such. That will differentiate you among the cog-employees who turn up to work to do as little as possible.
So, here’s my personal formula (my secret – which you can read about over at http://www.brazencareerist.com and in my upcoming book):
1. As an employee, you must never believe that you work FOR someone – you always work WITH someone – as a partner who has the potential to add value.
2. You must be well aware, through self-assessing yourself, what rewards motivate you about work and what you bring to the table in terms of your personality, your values, interests, skills and strengths. In my post: “I’m not sure that I’m self-assured” you can read about the assessments that I’ve used to develop a snap-shot of my key assets.
3. You must arrive at interviews with goals and an agenda of your own in mind. If you don’t, you run the risk of being at the mercy of someone else’s agenda and vision. I personally take the question:”what’s your plan for the next 5 years” quite seriously. For the past 10 years I’ve been planning my career in 5-year chunks. In my upcoming book you’ll find the templates that I’ve used to do this.
4. You must have a formula for delivering high quality results on an ongoing basis – and you must have ways to brag about it to an interviewer. Think about the systems and processes that support your day to day work. For example, do you have a time management ritual that you follow? How do you organize your work-station (cubicle or office)? How do you prepare for meetings? Those are the sort of things that allow you to get things done without having to re-invent the wheel.
5. Have strategies for changing those behaviors that get in the way of your goals. In my book you’ll learn about techniques based on Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and Positive Psychology which will a. make you aware of self-sabotaging behaviors and b. empower you to change them.
Yen, I hope this has been of help to you -if you’d like for me to elaborate more, please feel free to contact me directly: silvana.avinami@gmail.com
Best of luck with your job hunt…keep me posted!
go gettem’
Silvana
Hi Yen,
Thanks very much for your well thought comment. I agree. Picking a good book can be tricky (and risky business) – let alone finding a great one!
My main beacon for picking either non-fiction or fiction books has always, without exception, been word of mouth – of course I need to trust and respect my source. For example, a friend of mine has proven to be in the know by continuing to recommend books which I thoroughly enjoy and I get a lot from – including the 7 Habits that I write about above. So for years I have trusted her advice. More so, every time that I see her, we make it a point to exchange books. At the moment I’m loving the one I got from her last week: Excuse Me, My Life is Waiting.
I also rely on recommendations made by authors that I read. For example, Tim Ferriss, best-selling author of the 4 Hour Work Week and Jack Canfield, best-selling author of several books, including Chicken Soup for the Soul, both reference great books in their own books. Whenever I’ve followed their lead, they have been right. For example, the E-Myth is a great one which Tim highly recommends. So I continue to look out for their recommendations either on their websites/blogs or e-newsletters.
I also go to Oprah’s list from time to time. For example, I learned a lot from Basic Black, written by Cathie Black.
My other check point is The New York Times best-seller list. So happens to be that almost every book my friend has recommended has been on the list at some point.
For example, a very informative read, The Tipping Point, by Malcolm Gladwell has been there for 164 weeks and counting.
As far as authors being around for long, with non-fiction I have found that there aren’t any hard and fast rules. In fact, some of the best books I’ve read lately, including The 4 Hour Work Week and Personality Not Included (by Rohit Bhargava), have been the 1st book of the author. In those instances I’ve relied mainly on what the word on the street is..if you know what I mean. In my mind, a good book, whether non-fiction or fiction, is created by an author who does their research well and has a style that I like. As a writer myself, I believe that this is not determined by how many times they’ve been around the block. This is determined by their passion and their commitment to writing and their subject matter.
Yen, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed your comments…
Best,
Silvana
Silvana, WOW!!! Amazing site, I added it immediatelly to my favorites. I loved your articles on how to leave a job and the itch to switch. Going thru that as we speak. I will be doing some serious reading from your site.
Great job and well done!!!
Roger Bigio
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Some features from GTD are also present, like Contexts and Next Actions.
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Let me know your thoughts.
Silvana
Hi Silvana –
Great post, very informative. I have also take many personality tests, I’m an ENFP
Another terrific one is called The Birkman Method – you can check them out here if interested – http://www.birkman.com/ on their site you’ll see a link to a Wall Street Journal article that was published recently on The Birkman.
And yet another one that provides great depth and insight is The Disc Profile, you can find them here:
http://www.discprofile.com/whatisdisc.htm
Good luck with your discoveries!
Robin Ogden
FiredUP Careers
Hi Robin,
Thanks very much for your advice. I’ve taken the DISC assessment, but not the Birkman Method. Hopefully they’ll let me try it for free and then I can write about it. Stay tuned.
All the best to you as well.
Silvana
Hola Silvana, me gustaria saber si has pensado traducir tu pagina en espanol para compartir en tu blog con mis companeros de trabajo sobre tus conceptos de empresarismo, yo he trabajado en seguros durante 32 anos y tenemos un proyecto con la Universidad Eafit.
Saludos,
Luz Eugenia,
Hi, Silvana
They are wonderful recommendations. I will certainly pick out a few of those books and read through them when I embark on my two months break in Bangkok as a celebration for finishing law school. Yes, I have come to the end of the tunnel!
On the subject of word of mouth, many years ago, you recommended a book to me called ‘Who moved my cheese’ and I thoroughly enjoyed it. It became one of those books that stayed with me up till now. I can’t say much for myself whether I have put the principle into practice that much. Nevertheless, this is the kind of book that I am talking about, it has an impact on one’s perception or even, to exxagerate a bit, on one’s course of life. It left a mark in my psyche. Come to think of it, even though I have not consciously employed it in a work environment, I probably have used it in other aspects of my life. Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for ‘The Tipping Point’ which to me demonstrate quite the opposite. Mind you, one has to admit the whole idea surrounding the book is a marketing genius, let’s give credit where credit is due.
I shall continue to read your blog and once I have read some of the books you recommended, I may get back to you and tell you what I think of it. Happy reading!
By the way, speaking of book exchange, do you know there’s book exchange website call Book Mooch? (disclaimer: this is not my site) This is a good site for those who go though a lot of books.
Yen
YES, The Secret was shared with me a couple of months ago, and I am loving it – consider also reading: One minute for myself. Thanks for making your writings very down to earth and human – TIME and LIFE are precious!!!
Interesting point, but I tend to believe that you read (or watch) what you already believe. Conservatives watch FOX news and liberals watch CNN to feel supported in what they believe.
brilliant!!!!! really inspiring!!!!!
i constantly try to apply this “be happy” technique, because i strongly believe in the power of attraction and in positive feedback aroused by “good vibe emissions”. your writing makes it sound even better. keep up the good work on you blog.
Hi Silvana,
Once again….brilliant! I’m going through a big life change and I find your articles inspiring. Organization and focus are the key to the life that we want for ourselves and I think that you present this in a way that the words just jump out at you.
“Good reading” as you say, for me is the kind that speaks to you…and to anyone who reads it. Thanks for speaking to me with your article.
Cheers!
Becca
Hello again,
Reading your post reminded me of Stephen Covey’s 90/10 principle. It changed my life!
Positive thoughts only come when you acknowledge that you have no control over life and it’s ups and downs but that you are 100% responsible of your reactions.
I always use the “it can always get worse” thought to keep me in check whenever negativity tries to show it’s ugly face. That way, I’ve learned to enjoy traffic jams…IQ challenged clerks and rainy days. By this, I’ve become more patient, less reactive and alot happier!
I commend you on your challenge. Good luck!
Becca
Two comments in a day, you’d think I have nothing better to do…lol. I just received a ppt. presentation about the happiest man in the world Matthieu Ricard, the Dalai Lama’s second in command. In one of his books he talks about how we can physically modify our brains through the thoughts that we choose to have.
He says, that just as all body muscles the brain develops and strengthens the most used neurons. By having negative thoughts we are exercising the right cortex causing anxiety, depression, envy and hostility towards others…in other words, self-inflicted unhappiness.
He goes on to explain that by having more positive thoughts and trying to focus on the nicer side of things we exercise our left cortex elevating our pleasant emotions and therefore our happiness.
Ricard’s writings explain how it’s not about seeing the world through rose colored lenses from one day to the next but more so by systematically working on debilitating the unhappiness muscles that we have strengthened over the years by believing that we are victims of our past and of our environments, and strengthening those muscles that make us responsible for our own happiness.
So, it can be done! Looking forward to following up on your 30 day challenge.
Becca
Silvana, I’d like to share this story with you…
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head.
“Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today.” So she did and she had a wonderful day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head.
“Hmmm, ” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today.” So she did and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head.
“Well,” she said, “Today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.” So she did and she had a fun, fun day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head.
“YEAH!” she exclaimed, “I don’t have to fix my hair today!”
Attitude and Perception are everything.
Cheers!
Becca
One of the most awesome experiences I have ever had in my life was sneaking onto the rooftop of Victoria Peak and looking down on the skyscrapers at night as if I were able to fly. I love HK for that reason (and the Dim Sum, of course!)
So great that you’re blogging and from what I can see you’re already finding your voice. Love the “strategic job hopper” tag as well – we should all fit this category. I’m looking forward to reading lots more here and being able to stay connect through your blog and mine now that we don’t live a simple 10 minute bus ride away from one another anymore!
Great article! Nice to know that the long hours that I spent worrying about this topic are a shared issue for ESL’ers.
I suggest an additional dispute point, even though I don’t have any scientific evidence:
6- When you have a foreign accent, it will force the listener to engage more in the communication process in order to understand your message. Therefore, it improves your communication as you have a more captive audience which could be more easily distracted if it was a native speaker.
Just a thought…
Thanks for your great article.
Luis W.
I just read about “‘So what?!’ (How to cope when you don’t get a job offer)”, and I agree with you, especially with the last 3 points.
I am searching for a job right now, I have had a few deceptions….but I am not falling back, instead I am determined to understand and try to learn from my “mistakes”…I will take on your advice in rechecking my resumé and cover letter!The fact is, the world is somewhat frozen, even if just for the moment, and it is affecting those like us who have an amazing background both personally and professionally!we are too much for thit time period and it is not easy to find companies who are willing to spend a bit of money to have us. Thank you for your reading, anyhow, and hope to get that “silver lining” soon. Take care, Barbara Ebbli
any suggestions? I am looking for a top recruiter outside of Italy, because I have not been completely satisfied with the ones I have “worked” with here.
If you have any ideas, I would love to hear them other than the ones I have read above. In fact, I have asked friends to give me some infos on top recruiters in the usa?!
Hi Barbara,
I’d be happy to give you some guidance. To do that I’d like to find out a bit more about what areas you’re looking for work – both in terms of industry/ies and geography.
If you like we can take this offline – feel free to send me an email with your answers and any other questions: silvana.avinami@gmail.com
LOVE this posting, Silvana! Great wisdom and I love your personal story about the silver lining you found.
I’ve incorporated your wisdom into a posting of my own:
http://workfromwithin.typepad.com/jobsearchgym/2008/11/great-advice-on-coping-when-you-dont-get-the-job.html
THANKS! And keep sharing your insights. I really enjoy what you’re writing.
Cheers,
Susan
Thank you Dr. Bernstein. I’ve just seen your site for the first time – thank you for pointing me to it – and I LOVED your workbook titled: Interviewing Authentically. It looks like a great tool for anyone looking to sharpen their interviewing skills.
Stay in touch,
Silvana
This practice is not new. Many years ago I was doing outplacement with Exxon. They had forced rankings and eliminated their bottom twenty five percent each year. This type of social Darwinism created a “me” environment, instead of “we.” While trying to eliminate poor performers and get higher level performers in the organization is not a bad policy. But, forced rankings and elimination creates a paranoid work environment.
Thank you Dr. Miller for sharing your experience!
Furthermore, it would be interesting to see some long-term statistics on the impact of this practice. While it makes sense that potentially in the short term things would improve, being that there’s a risk that a ‘me’ environment in created – as you point out – what happens with performance (including employee turnover) in the long-term?? What you mention reminds me of the US olympic basketball team – the Dream team…that’s a reminder of the power of team dynamics – you can have the top performers on your team, but if there’s no ‘team’ then what are you left with?? The Redeem Team is my guess!
Stay in touch,
Silvana
Your article makes a lot of sense Silvana. While spending time on certain things that don’t come naturally might make sense as a hobby or side interest, it’s unwise to force yourself into it full-time. I’d suggest people do as you say and do something that come easier for now. There’s no reason why you can keep trying or practicing something and then go back into it at full steam in the future when perhaps it will come more naturally.
Great post Silvana! I love the way you articulate things – I am huge fan. Cheers Darren.
@Alex – Thanks for your insight. It was only recently that I came to terms with my own reality – and stopped trying to what felt like fitting a square into a circle. While I believe in playing to my strengths, I also know that it has been during those times that I haven’t that I’ve learned the most.
@Darren – Thanks so much! Stay tuned…
One could have said the same thing about a fisherman leaving his comfort zone to become the cornerstone of a new church, a hamburger slinger becoming the latest CEO of MacD, etc. etc. There’s something to be said about focusing on some well defined talent or knack – but I’ve known too many folks who do what they do cause no one had given them an opportunity or motivation to explore their other talents.
A while back I learned that we are only responsible for our own actions. If only we embraced mentoring, motivating and nurturing as part of our life responsibility. Maybe constructive feedback would’ve helped, maybe not… Sometimes we never know the results of our involvement, which is okay with me…
First ready your blog on Tom Ruff’s site- glad to hear that I am not the only “Strategic job-hopper!” I think I have had 10 jobs in 12 years myself! Have you found a career that you enjoy at this point? I am unsure if it will be an endless quest for me or not..but can definitely relate to your experiences!
Michael
Silvana, compartiendo tus comentarios acerca de las competencias en nuestro trabajo estoy muy de acuerdo contigo que debemos con frecuencia hacernos un autoanalis de nuestro desempeño, detectando fortalezas y debilidades , yo lo hago y asi mismo aconsejo a mis entrenados que lo realicen cada dia, semanal, mensual y anualmente , al hacerlo estamos evaluando la eficiencia en nuestra actividad pero lo mas importante es orientarnos hacia una mejora constante y nuestro crecimiento personal.
Gracias por la oportunidad de poder escribir en tu pagina en español, gracias a la traduccion puedo entender tus ideas.
Te deseo un feliz 2009 !!
Luz Eugenia
Gracias Luz por compartir tu experiencia. Me parece genial lo del auto-analisis. Siento que un paso crucial en ese proceso es buscar formas de manejar nuestras debilidades, y asi poder dedicar mas tiempo fortaleziendo nuestros talentos.
Muchas gracias por todo tu apoyo.
Tambien te deseo un año lleno de felicidad, salud y abundancia.
Silvana
Good question Michael. Being that I’ve switched as many times as you, I now know not to count my chickens too early …if you know what I mean. To that end I now plan my career in 5 year chunks. So to answer your question: Yes, I have found a path that I will be happy pursuing for the next 5 years – that is full time writing – in pursuit of my vision to inspire and empower people around the world to create, follow and succeed on their path and consequently become better citizens of planet Earth. Even if at this point I feel I have found my life’s calling in writing, that is not relevant. I’m sticking to my 5 year plan.
Just as well, I believe that if we’re doing things right, we’re always seeking and learning. That never stops – even if we are happy with our work. Stay in touch,
Silvana
This is really great advice. I’m a loner too, and I always feel pressured to be more social. People seem to think that only “the life of the party” people will be successful. I am graduating college soon, and hope to prove that stereotype wrong.
@Rebecca – great to hear. During my 10-year working life I’ve learned that my uniqueness is my strength. That said, I suggest that you identify your strengths and look for opportunities to play to them…In other words don’t waste time as a circle trying to fit into a square. Stay in touch,
Silvana
Good One!
Loved it
Great post. I have been in the post-collegiate working world for two years now and I do have difficulty in these types of situations. I thought I could hide in my cube and my work would speak for itself, but in corporate america things dont work like that.
One challenge I have seen is that when I am real with people, I sometimes rub them the wrong way. Sometimes I come across as arrogant, but I believe this is because I believe strongly in my ideas and refuse to wait for my hair to be gray to be respected in the workplace.
I love your blog and niche associated with it. Keep it up!
Thanks Chris. I believe that while being genuine and true to yourself is key, as with the application of law, context is also key. When speaking my mind at work, I’ve found that being firm, fair and friendly (kinda’ like naughty but nice), tends to get my point across more effectively than when I’ve been as you say ‘arrogant’. Stay tuned..and keep on bloggin’. Silvana
Great list; and so true.
Unfortunately I have found myself at jobs like this a couple times, but I have also learned that you have to do what makes you happy—even if it means less money, less prestige, or even disappointing people. Those people don’t have to do your job every day—you do!
So true David. Thanks for your comment. After being involved in meaning LESS jobs I’ve become very sensitive to the fact that not only am I not enjoying the work, even more crucial is that I’m wasting precious life time on something that is not fulfilling. Take care, Silvana
Hi Silvana,
I RSS’ed you a couple weeks ago and just wanted to say I enjoy your perspective. Thanks for putting out great content and sharing this video.
Congratulations on finishing your book! Love the marathon example – you definitely need positive people around you to put one foot in front of the other. How do you block out the negative (some might even say realist) influences? Any tips?
Thanks so much…
Keeping positive people around and negative ones away starts by having clear goals for your life . It’s about knowing (really knowing) what’s really important for you. Once you know that, you’ll be able to tell who is in line with your priorities – and who isn’t. If you’re serious about this, I suggest that you screen your life and make a list of both the positive and negative influencers in your life. Identify who is bringing good into your life – and who’s taking away from you. Then it’s a matter of having strategies to bring in positive influencers and keep out negative ones. For example, if a negative influencer lives in your building, rehearse your response next time that you bump into them in the elevator or parking lot. How will you minimize your contact with them – while being polite? What will you answer if they invite you for a coffee? Having a few lines top of mind is helpful in these situations. Simply put, expect that negative influencers will drop into your life – and be prepared to manage them. I’d LOVE to know how this works for you. Stay in touch,
Silvana
te felicito me has dado varias lecciones…..se que me haran mucho bien…..para seguir en mi camino…..hasta el final!!!!!!
Fabuloso. Stay tuned for more…
This is a great mantra for your accomplishments and goals. Very Seth Godin for careers : )
Great article Silvana!! I think that keeping everything as pure and genuine as possible is the key to building relationships these days – something I have been thinking about for ages and that can be applied to just about any interaction!! DS.
This is such a brilliant article. I just spent the weekend with Joey in her 3 day workshop and am total awe of her energy, intelligence and integrity. Wonderful that you are sharing her story with others.
I have known Pablo for many years; it has been so many years that I can even recall when we start our friendship.
It fills me with happiness to know that you finally accomplished your dream, create your own business and help the people who need it the most at the same time.
As I always say, believe in yourself and follow your dream! These are the two biggest accomplishments that one could achieve and I believe that you have done that my friend.
Wishing you all the best successes.
Padi
Erick A. Padilla
Hola Silvana,
Excelente blog!
Por favor envíame los Power Boosts que llevas, ya que he andado por fuera de vacaciones.
Un saludo,
Ernesto J.
A lot of people are “narrow” experts. They are engineers, or web designers, or what ever and their experience is in their field. Their practical experience didn’t include sales and marketing. They have been able to rely on “Joe” the salesman, or “Jane” in the marketing department.
Your target audience didn’t go into sales or marketing because they really love engineering, web design, or what ever. Now they have to learn a skill that is against their interest and personality type.
The people who see these changes as opportunities and not insurmountable problems are the people for whom sales and marketing are exciting and fun. The rest of us just see how difficult it is going to be and feel overwhelmed.
Allen – I understand where you’re coming from. Changing directions, whether you’re an expert or a generalist, is difficult. I know because I have done so several times in my work-life. In saying that, it’s vital to look at our options. In other words, what’s more difficult – to stay on the same track, feeling miserable (and in these times for some it means being jobless) or to decide to take one baby step every single day in the new direction? I recently wrote a post about how to apply this concept to our work-lives: http://silvanaavinami.com/?p=688
And speaking of “narrow” experts, you’ll find out about an engineer who changed paths in my post: A New Kind of Hero for a New Kind of World, Hero #1 (http://silvanaavinami.com/?p=754) Stay in touch. Silvana
Hola, vi su comentario en el blog de Casnocha y me parecio chévere. Por eso me pase por acá y me gustó, sobre todo su entusiasmo y positivismo sin caer en la meloseria tonta de muchos libros de autoayuda. Saludos
@Alejandro – Muchas gracias por visitar. Esta buena la labor de Casnocha. Sigue en contacto.Silvana
Nice post.
Personally I’m heavily into “Getting Things Done” (GTD) and I recognise a lot of the concepts within your points.
But possibly more importantly, I see some ways to improve even further… Thanks
Paul
@ Paul – thanks for stopping by. BTW nice blog! Do share what you have in mind about improving upon what I state above…
Well done Monika, very impressive!!
Hi Silvana,
This is the only way a computer novice like me could think of contacting you.I read your question on the Good to Feel Good blog about the 60,000
thoughts a day.Did yo ever find a reference for this research?I’m also interested. Thanks,I enjoyed your stories.
Great advice! Many of my friends are starting to pick up blogging as well. Can I add a suggestion to that list as an extension to point #6? Take it easy… Pace yourself.
I have some friends who (though keen) were posting everyday! But they quickly ran out of material and they lost their pace. Also, they forced themselves to post when there wasn’t really anything going on (violating your point #3).
@ Joshua – thanks for stopping by and for sharing your experiences. To add to your friends’ situation, I’d like to suggest that anyone looking to start a blog should prepare at least 10 to 20 posts before launching the site. This may delay the launch period but will make a world of difference once the site is live. Having posts ready will serve as a buffer while people get used to writing for an audience. Hope this helps…Silvana
Nice one Silvana. They keep getting better and better…very inspirational
@ Kid23 – BTW – great number!
Thanks so much for stopping by…stay tuned! Silvana
Hello Silvana,
I love your blog, thanks for sharing your experience and inspiring thoughts.
Reading this post reminded me of this book, you may find interesting: Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely, Harper Collins Ed.
One of the main ideas of this book is how difficult may be to find our way through many choices and that, very often, having too many opportunities makes us do suboptimal decisions.
I wonder why sometimes realizing what we really are made for is so difficult and takes so much time and effort…
Thank you Federica,
I’ve a huge smile on my face from reading your comment! Thanks for the name of the book – I’ll look it up. And in answer to your wondering, I’ve come to realize that there are no shortcuts in life – that is for the most important things. If we knew from day 1 what we were meant to do, we would not accumulate the lessons and insights that we do along the way – that we gain from searching, questioning, trying. And it is those lessons and insights that allow us to carry out our reason for being. Without them, we would be unprepared for our unique task at hand. Knowing this, living it with my own skin, is what gives me the peace of mind that every single moment, experience, and what have you, in my life has a reason for being…I’m certain that if you pay close attention, you will find the same. Everything happens for a (bigger) reason…
Stay in touch,
Silvana
I’m truly glad there are people in this world that still believe in every human creature’s inner power and potential.
I’m going through a “chancing my path moment” finally seeing the road sign of the one I really love, so these reflections help me to let all the fears go and trust myself more.
I also read the post about Jo the doctor-actor that became a mentor, finding it brilliant.
You’re right: the most of the time is the fear of the “what’s coming then?” that restrains us from taking the right decision. But going on with a life with a constant regret in your chest is not really living so thank you for showing us that through hard work and dedication making “it” is possible… Surely because of a “bigger” reason but also because we do want it and work for it.
Ciao, Federica
“15 there’s still time for you
Time to buy and time to choose
Hey 15 there’s never a wish better than this
When you’ve only got a hundred years to live”
Silvana, you’re a genius! =)
I’d let you know about my reason for being after intersecting those qualities you mentioned.
Glad you added Rebecca to this series. She a friend of ours here is Madison, WI. It’s been awesome seeing her transition from her role at MAGNET into an awesome startup, Alice.com.
And thanks for the Brazen links too!
-RP
Good luck with it Silvana!
Namaste.
Hi, nice to meet you Silvana, my name is Guilty.
Nice article. Me imagino que este entry fue a raiz de ese dia en Castellana de la 104 cuando entrevistabas gente para el puesto.
Ya que pude leer tu blog entry, me hiciste dar cuenta que en ocasiones en el pasado cuando fui a entrevistas de trabajo, I shamelessly bullshitted my way through. I was actually getting a job out of necessity and not out of desire to do what I really wanted to do. Me doy cuenta that emeralds are what I love to do, (and now forex too!), and I can’t really imagine myself doing anything different than emeralds 20 years down the road.
Me gusto tu articulo! Nicely written.
Bien esa Silvana!
Silvana,
Great thoughts on entreprenuership! I am a die-hard entrepreneur also. I have tried working for others…but learned that I am psychologically unemployable! I have found that controlling your own destiny is both accelerating and scary. However, the rewards far out weigh the risks. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Jan Cole
Thank you Jan for stopping by. I love what you say about being psychologically unemployable…For those feeling that same way, I suggest that you focus on your goals and resist the temptation to make decisions based on emotions alone. As an entrepreneur at heart, I found that being employed is one of the most powerful ways to learn to be an entrepreneur. Yes, it is beneficial to make mistakes on others’ time and money…That said, if you choose this path, also remember that contributing to a business also leaves valuable lessons – In other words, aim to be a responsible employee – before you jump into your own business. It’s bound to pay back.
Wow, toughness? Maybe it’s a cultural thing, because I have not gotten that impression reading your posts. Maybe you should put more “OMG’s” and use more exclamation marks (sarcasm).
//A.J.
Really great thoughts and Thanks for sharing this.
Hi. I really liked your above post. It really made me think twice. I’m a loner. I’ve been a loner ever since I transferred to a different high school. I’ve tried making friends but they don’t seem to want to open up to me. And I just can’t seem to fit in any of their groups. I feel so isolated. I’ve never felt this way before. I think I might even suffer from mild depression!
I’ve had one or two people calling me an anti-social person. And I’m probably known in high school as the loner who doesn’t like mixing with friends. Help! What do you think I should do? thanks a bunch. x
Hi Sam,
Since I’m not a psychologist, I do not feel I can properly advice you…I suggest that you chat to a professional about your suspicions about being mildly depressed. You might be surprised to find out that speaking about your issues is all you need to feel better.
Take care,
Silvana
All valid, great points! I’ve found out more about myself in chaotic moments than I ever have when times were good.
Additionally viewing life as a series of lessons is a corner stone of the Stoic philosophy, and a valuable tool in reaching our fullest potential. Asking, “why me?” never solves anything.
Living to avoid pain and loss is not living at all. Life has ups and downs, and the victories are that much sweeter having experienced loss.
On any given day I actively seek experiences that excite me, and drive me towards fulfilling my potential, even if I fall short.
Silvana, el post de “sacudete” estuvo muy “currambero”. En verdad que siendo el primero en Español, estuvo tan bueno como los de Ingles. Leer tu Blog, es un buen momento para parar, pensar, y arrancar con un segundo aire. Ayuda a aplicar el Power Boost No. 53.
How I found your article.. I googled the exact question in which you titled the article. Well.. Im conflicted. I have two great job offers in front of me.
Point 1.company B
Point 2. company A and B
Point 3. company A
Point 4. company A and B
Point 5. company B
Point 6. company A and B
Point 7. company A and B
Point 8. company A and B
I first interviewed with company A and felt great after two interviews I felt I found the right company to work for. I felt real good vibes about the people and company they represented. After 4 weeks from the initial interview they call me and offer me a job we discuss salary. and Im told they will call me back for the next step. After 3 weeks I call and leave a voicemail. The next day company B calls me and I interview. Interview went great. I felt a strong desire to work for this company and work for this interviewer who would be my Boss if hired. Two days later I interview with her Boss. And I am astonished at the leadership qualties exuding from this person. I felt great during and after this interview. So I say to myself “perfect. Company A hasnt called me back and I know company B is going to offer me a job.” 2 days later , week 4 since we last spoke , week 8 from initial interview company A calls me back apoligises for the delay says we agree to your salary request, come in. I take a drug test and consent to back round check . Now company A is begining to invest capital with the intent of hiring me. 4 days later company B calls me (my potential future boss) I level with her about the other job offer. And she impresses me with wisdom about making the right choice for me. Gives me impartial advice. And offers me a higher salary.
Both companies are indusry leaders and are performing extraoridinary despite a down economy. Both offer growth to the next level. This is my intent I am really seeking the next postion/promotion in both companies. Both companies require I start at the training level to learn company procedure policy culture etc. However company A does offer a more solid program to the next level (3 month trainingg A written agreement). Comany B says 3 to 6 months. Which my potential future boss says this is why she wants to hire me, but at the end of the day its up to me and my performance. Company A jobs atmosphere does seem slightly more dull. Which I dont like and attracts me to Company B. What do you think?
Silvana,
Am in this situation myself, when it rains it pours! hahahaha … Yes, I agree wholeheartedly with your evaluation on the multiple job offer decision making. You focused on things that one may have overlooked. Your insight gave us hope … thank you for sharing! Making our decision making easier.
Thank you Tara for stopping by. It makes my day to know that my writing has made your life easier – and hopefully improved your career.
Cris, Your decision making process is impecable. Good job for taking so many factors under consideration. It is obvious that you have taken time to get to know yourself very well. It is now time to take a risk. You read right. Every decision you make carries with it a risk – and every path that you take brings with it lessons – which lead to career evolution. Having said that, sostainability is the name of the game. So what factors will make you feel excited about going to work every day? Is it a short commute? Like-minded colleagues? The role the company plays in your community? How much they care about the environment? Think about those things that may seem minor – however will feel like rocks in your shoe if you overlook them. And keep me posted. S
Thanks Savana for your advice. I admire your giving spirit. Your 8 points made alot of sense. I thought about what you said “which one are you drawn to”. I really thought about it and I took a leap. Im now working at company B..going on my second week. So far so great. Thank you.
I am in a situation that i have a 1 job offer and all i know about the other is that they have short listed me. And this short listed job offer is a dream job I was waiting for a long time. Money wise both are ok. but career wise second one is the best.I dont like to take the risk of loosing both… Could you please help me?
Great article, much more balanced and honest than the narrow “talk about your college basketball team, and know the following by heart” piece that this is in response to. To me, that piece felt really fake and pretentious. So thats one book i’ll never buy !
This covers a lot of areas, but really, there are an infinite number of things that one can talk about to connect and network. Its all a question of listening and being very observant, to know what will work.
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[...] que una vida desaprovechada es una de las tragedias más críticas – pero más prevenibles del Siglo 21. Es en gran parte porque dedico unas cuantas horas a la semana escribiendo este blog. Para [...]
[...] porque tanta pedantería con el uso de las [...]
[...] via Power(ful) comes in all sizes. [...]
[...] Y no me refiero a las diferencias que hay en sus preferencias de pareja. [...]
[...] Silvana Avinami was already mentioned in one of my earlier posts this week. After that post we connected and communicated on Facebook, followed each other on Twitter, I forwarded the interview at UpMo to a couple of my coachees as an example why networking is important. And I started reading her blog, which by itself is worth reading. [...]
[...] I ran into a blog post at Silvana’s blog about failure and I was triggered by the title. Failure has a negative [...]
[...] “Es un riesgo – por lo tanto no lo [...]
[...] lo menos posible. Eso me lo recomendó un mesero en uno de los hoteles donde trabaje como aprendiz de [...]
[...] to make alliances successful. And today I noticed that one of my favorite bloggers, Silvana Roiter, wrote a post about [...]
The tale of 2 books…
A book I read many years ago landed up on my desk a few weeks ago, and subsequently I’m re-reading it. Written by Michael Gerber it’s the E-Myth. This book as sold millions of copies world wide, and as a side effect many an employee has bee…
[...] que esta información no tiene que ver contigo ya que como empleada no eres socia de tu jefe – escucha bien. Un contrato laboral es evidencia de que la relación entre un empleado y un jefe es una sociedad. [...]
[...] Lo sé – la Yoga esta de moda. Y siendo que soy alérgica a las modas (me dan sarpullido…) me sorprende que llevo mas de 7 años practicándola. [...]
[...] Practica de por vida. Algo fundamental de la Yoga es que nunca, no importa a que nivel se esta, se hace Yoga. Por toda la vida, Yoga se practica – ya que jamás se para de aprender. En el mundo del trabajo esto lo saben los exitosos. Te imaginas que un cirujano – que te va a operar – se graduó hace 10 años y no ha vuelto a abrir un libro? [...]
[...] – un coordinador de compras que conocí en uno de los muchos hospitales que visito a diario en mi trabajo. Durante mi reunión con Jorge aprendí que hace 15 años Jorge era barrendero – del mismo [...]
[...] aplica a tu vida laboral. Si entregas lo mejor de ti – después de un tiempo razonable – veras los frutos. Es decir, si estas esperando llegar al puesto que tanto anhelas para hacer bien tu trabajo – [...]
[...] image courtesy : http://silvanaroiter.com/?p=1199 [...]
[...] Career owner – Strategic job hopper – Serial entrepreneur Skip to content About me (personality included) « Las niñas buenas van al cielo – las malas llegan al mejor puesto [...]
[...] multinacionales – como Unilever – tienen excelentes propuestas de trabajo, es posible encontrar Nirvana profesional afuera de las paredes del sector corporativo. Por medio de mi comentario buscaba asegurarles que [...]
[...] reacciones son destructivas. Es claro que la persona que me pidió que me callara simplemente reaccionó. Siendo que [...]
[...] igual que Michael, en tu trabajo – y en la vida en general – tú también eres innatamente mejor para unas actividades que para otras. Según Howard Gardner, profesor de Harvard [...]
[...] Career owner – Strategic job hopper – Serial entrepreneur Skip to content About me (personality included) « What smart and brave know. [...]
[...] semana pasada reté a la marca de ropa Diesel. Esta semana he decidido retar a Lao Tzu – el filósofo Chino y figura central del Taoismo. [...]
[...] términos – a crear tu propia sombra. A encontrar lo que muchos otros ya han encontrado – Nirvana profesional. Y eso es algo [...]
[...] como la palabra revolución esta compuesta en gran parte por la palabra evolución, [...]
[...] owner – Strategic job hopper – Serial entrepreneur Skip to content About me (personality included) « Suave [...]
[...] un punto de vista distinto te diferencia – y eso te lo dará una formación no convencional. Si no me crees, piensa en Unilever – un [...]
[...] Ni el sueldo más alto del mundo tiene el poder de despertar tu pasión. [...]
[...] – tu pasión no esta para la venta. Y si que vale la pena encontrar tu punto de pasión – tu P-Spot profesional. Ya que al alinear en lo que trabajas con tu pasión es como alcanzarás éxtasis [...]
[...] Career owner – Strategic job hopper – Serial entrepreneur Skip to content About me (personality included) « ¿Y tu P-Spot – sabes donde lo tienes? [...]
[...] pasión no es un lujo. Hay quienes piensan que amar lo que hacemos es privilegio de pocos. Que es más [...]
[...] camino tiene riesgos. Al comienzo de la carrera de cada uno de esos atletas profesionales, como es el caso en la [...]
[...] Formula una visión constructiva de lo que quieres lograr. Ir en contra del status quo por deporte (o rebeldía), poco sentido tiene. (Lo aprendí después de andar con botas de cuero en 35 grados de calor!) Quizás logres llamar la atención y hasta entretener a tus colegas por un rato – pero al fin del día solo perderás tu tiempo. Y posiblemente llegara el momento cuando llamar la atención no será una razón suficientemente valiosa para continuar en tu camino pionero. Para crear una visión constructiva, básate en lo que mas valoras. Tu visión puede ser conseguir un puesto al que personas con tu perfil educativo jamás han llegado. O puede ser completar un proyecto sostenible, que requiera la colaboración entre profesionales que nunca antes han trabajado juntos. O vender un producto que jamás ha comprado un cliente. [...]
[...] Actualiza tus criterios. Cuando estas creando una nueva realidad, el antiguo orden que conocías ya no existe. Así que los criterios para medir tus logros y resolver problemas cambian. Entonces no trates de entender y medir la nueva realidad con criterios antiguos. En el mejor de los casos, hacer esto te decepcionará, y te hará sentir insegura. En el peor de los casos te hará pensar que poco haz progresado y posiblemente te hará rendir. Actualizar tus criterios puede tomar tiempo – entonces entre mas rápido te desapegues de los antiguos criterios, mas rápido será el proceso de aprendizaje. [...]
[...] Redefine la definición de progreso – adáptala a tu situación única. En esta nueva realidad, hay veces que el progreso será muy notable. Y esto esta muy bien. Pero lo mas probable es que el progreso sea lento en comparación al del antiguo mundo. O que simplemente signifique que no haz retrocedido. Así que ignora la antigua forma de medir tu progreso. Progreso es progreso – por mas lento que sea. [...]
[...] es. El miedo viene en muchos colores y sabores. De uno ya te hable en un post pasado – la rabia. Otro es un sentimiento de que no hay suficiente tiempo para alcanzar a hacer todo aquello que [...]
[...] Career owner – Strategic job hopper – Serial entrepreneur Skip to content About me (personality included) « Los Des Enmascarados. [...]
[...] quitarme la reputación de aguafiestas, he decidido modificar la frase popular “Todo lo bueno en la vida tiene un fin…” La [...]
[...] Para quitarme la reputación de aguafiestas, propongo repensar la frase popular “Todo lo bueno en la vida tiene un fin…” La versión groovy que propongo es “Todo en la vida es impermanente.” [...]
[...] Katherine does is so remarkable because she has moved beyond where most stay stuck – playing the blame game, pointing fingers at the guilty party. She took matters into her own hands. Although she did [...]
[...] La vida no es algo que se encuentra – es algo que se crea. [...]
[...] un detective forense, buscando quitarme ese sentimiento, ando tras su causa con mi linterna de autoconciencia en [...]
[...] inclusive años. Te garantizo que cada segundo que inviertas, te dará dividendos en la forma de éxtasis [...]